Saturday, January 5, 2013

Scriptures to help with PMS


 Last night was the first time I’ve ever been awakened in the middle of the night by Pre-menstrual Syndrome (PMS).  Really weird and not fun.  Today in my scripture study I decided to look for scriptures that could help me endure PMS well.  (Does this seem like a topic that is not blogged about by polite LDS bloggers? Well, hang with me; I’m going to try to make this as edifying as I possibly can.)  Anyway... so the following is what I found.

And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
 And patience, experience; and experience, hope: (Romans 5:3-4)

PMS is a certain kind of tribulation.  (What? Are we women supposed to glory in PMS?  Evidently we are…)  PMS for me is like the beginning of an insurrection. The usually compliant natives suddenly start murmuring for no reason and begin fomenting rebellion.  I just have to have patience to get through it and I have to pray for self-control.  The patience brings experience of knowing it is possible to bridle my irritability so that I don’t hurt the people around me or beat myself up.  Experience brings hope that with God’s help I can become a better person even when my hormones seem to be working against me.

Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy. (James 5:11)

Job didn’t have PMS, but he had a lot of terrible things happen to him, so he is known for patience.  Even if we aren’t enjoying peace with PMS, enduring well through it will bring happiness and satisfaction… afterward.  Also, the Lord knows all things and will not withhold His tender mercies from us if we ask for help.

One of the ways that I think Heavenly Father has helped me endure though PMS in the past is by giving me a heightened awareness so I notice when I’m about to say something hurtful and ornery.  And I keep my mouth shut and then think about whether the irritant is something that usually bothers me or not.  And it usually isn’t, so I know I should definitely keep my mouth shut.

Is any among you afflicted? let [her] pray. (James 5:13)

How could it possibly be made clearer what we should do when we have PMS?  We can pray that we will overcome our hormonal afflictions and that we will not be overcome by the irritable or aggressive or saddening impulses that come upon us.

And now it came to pass that the burdens which were laid upon [Michaela and her sister Saints] were made light; yea, the Lord did strengthen them that they could bear up their burdens with ease, and they did submit cheerfully and with patience to all the will of the Lord.  (Mosiah 24:15)

Okay, so I put us women in there to apply it better to us. 

One of the difficulties I have when troubled by PMS is that the irritation is an underlying current in my subconscious and when I want to have peace, I have a hard time feeling it; I’m just rumpled inside.  I want to feel the peace of the Holy Ghost inside when I’m doing my callings or reading my scriptures, but with PMS sometimes I can’t feel it.  This scripture teaches me that I can still submit cheerfully and with patience to the will of the Lord even if I don’t feel the peace yet.  It also assures me the Lord can strengthen me to bear my burdens with ease, to bear the little irritations that pop up and which suddenly seem maddening.

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to [woman]: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. (1 Cor 10:13)

This assures us we are not alone when suffering PMS, and we will not feel it forever.  God makes a way for our bodies to bear it.  I’ve found a number of ways by which I find some relief.  When I’m feeling irritable and aggressive, it really helps me to go running, or do hard housework or to work in the yard, or to play hard fast songs on the piano where I can just pound away.  The energy needs some place to go, and there are good things I can use it for.

The odd thing is that after doing one of those things, I feel satisfaction for only about five minutes and then I get irritable again and have to do something else.  It is a queer feeling to tire myself out all day like this and still have an irritable feeling fighting with the physical fatigue of having worked so hard.  At least the next day the PMS is gone and I can finally feel satisfaction for all I got done.  How do you deal with it?

O Lord, my heart is exceedingly sorrowful; wilt thou comfort my soul in Christ. O Lord, wilt thou grant unto me that I may have strength, that I may suffer with patience these afflictions which shall come upon me, because of [my hormones]. (Alma 31:31)

Alma anticipated afflictions coming upon him because of the people’s wickedness, but I thought his prayer was appropriate for PMS just by changing those end words a little.   With enough experience with PMS, we may start to anticipate the afflictions from hormonal imbalances and we can ask for our souls to be comforted in Christ.  Might it be possible to have a “soul” comfort that goes deeper than biological pique or sorrow? 

When my PMS is of the weepy variety, I often look at myself with chagrin saying, “Self you really don’t have reason to cry.  You’re life is a very good one right now.  You have all these blessings.”  In the past I have gotten frustrated myself for the mismatch and irrationality of the sorrow, but maybe I can just accept that sometimes I will feel that way and let it happen, knowing deeper down that God is in His heaven and all is right in my world.

But that ye have patience, and bear with those afflictions, with a firm hope that ye shall one day rest from all your afflictions. (Alma 34:41)

I wonder.  Will we have to worry about hormones in heaven?  Or is that just part of mortality?

Here are some other scriptures and even a hymn that are applicable:

All these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good.” (D&C 122:7)

My people shall be tried in all things… (D&C 136:31)

…thou didst bear all these things with patience because the Lord was with thee. (Alma 38:4-5)

Be still, my soul: The Lord is on thy side;
With patience bear thy cross of grief or pain
Leave to thy God to order and provide;
In ev’ry change he faithful will remain.
Be still, my soul: Thy best, thy heav’nly Friend
Thru thorny ways leads to a joyful end.
(Be Still My Soul, hymn 124)

Do you have any scriptures that particularly help you when you are going through PMS?  How do you deal with it in a constructive way?

4 comments:

Dawn Mercedes said...

Thanks for your insights...wish my patience had to be tried on something as simple as PMS. Next question: why does it seem like OUR trials are always the hardest? But I suppose you probably already addressed that somewhere on this bloggaroo!

Ramona Gordy said...

Michaela
I hope you are feeling better, I never enjoy PMS and there doesn't seem to be a cure.
So this may help you on a deeply spiritual level. I am reading this book "Gospel Symbols" Finding the creator in his Creations by Mark A Shields. What intriqued me in this book was the heading on Obedience.

He notes that all commandments given by God are commandments of obedience. Obedience applies to the whole body, the whole soul and spirit. As the heart obeys the commandment to come unto me, then it is in progress to heal. The body likewise is commanded to obey and heal.
He gives this example: Death of the body is a form of disobedience. He considers two major causes of death in America; heart disease and cancer. They are disobedience. The heart ceasing to function the way it was designed to function and cells behaving out of control"
So in the case of PMS, it involves hormones, and next to the brain and heart, hormones play a major part in every function of our bodies, even to the point of preventing a scenario for a disease. So in this case, the hormones are "out of order". Can we pray for our hormones, that they would repent of their abnormal behavior? Not to make light of your discomfort, but I beleive we can. Laying on of hands by a tender priesthood blessing works wonders. You may still have discomfort, but your homones will have peace. I say this Michaela in the name of Jesus Christ.Amen
xoxoxo

catania said...

Well...as far as PMS goes, it has always taken me a more focused effort - to be kinder. For me, a lot of the irritation was based on pain (I had Endometriosis). Recently, I had a hysterectomy. A little radical, maybe, but it has really helped my moods!

As far as spiritual understanding helping me, I found that my hormones - especially PMS always made me a little bit more depressed. One thing that has helped has been the understanding that my biology - these hormones - all of this was a result of the fall. The Lord cursed bringing forth children for Eve's sake.

I used to think that this curse was relegated to the nine months of pregnancy and delivery. But I'm realizing that it is so much more - and it effects all women - even if they don't or can't have children. (which isn't really fair). This hormonal change is truly a result of the fall. And it is what makes me a woman.

Knowing this brings me a measure of peace. I'm not irritable because I'm some kind of weakling. I'm not depressed because I can't appreciate God. There is a biological reason. And I can turn to the Creator of my body for comfort and assistance through these trials.

so...that's the long answer for your question.

The short answer: these three scriptures help me:

Moses 4:22 (In sorrow Eve will bring forth children).

Matthew 11:28-30 (Come unto the Lord, all ye that labor and are heavy laden [with hormones and PMS]

and

Doctrine and Covenants 112:5 - Contend morning by morning, day after day...(I always need this one).

Michaela Stephens said...

Dawn, it sounds like you have more difficult challenges that are trying your patience.

Ramona, I never considered that hormones could be disobedient. Interesting perspective. It may be disobedient to something, but I don't think it is under my conscious control. I will take responsibility for my behavior, but I prefer not to be held responsible for my hormones.

Catania, yes, pain does try our patience too. Sounds like you had a big trial with that endometriosis. I really hope heavenly hormones (if there is such a thing) will be more friendly..